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So we have gone over the chase and the catch. We have covered what to do beyond the second date.
Maybe now I’m thinking we need track back a bit to go over how to get past the first conversation.
Now don’t get me wrong I LOVE men but… seriously… sometimes… it’s just like… I want to ask them if they have had head trauma in the past 48 hours.
No matter how you start talking to a girl be it at a coffee shop, bar, work, the gym, book store, or even the internet. You need to conduct your self so you don’t come across as a loser automatically. Let her find out AFTER you get her trapped in committed relationship.
A lot of us ladies react heavily on vibes and how we feel when we first start talking to a person. If you want respect from a woman or her to have interest in you beyond your pants you need to avoid the following SINS like the PLAGUE!
No Judging! Don’t judge the girl (out loud), don’t judge the guy sitting across the table, don’t judge a celebrity, don’t judge your family, your boss, DON’T JUDGE ANYTHING It’s cool that you have an opinion but when you go around spewing your judgement like word vomit the minute you meet someone, most likely they will think you are judgemental and lose interest very quickly.
Name Dropping No girl likes a guy who constantly talks about who he knows, who he has met, and who he is obsessed with. We probably wont believe you anyway even if it’s true. People who actually know important people tend to think it’s no big deal. Someone who saw Jessica Simpson from across a crowded restaurant as she walked into the VIP room is often the person who proclaims they “know” her during the first 15 min of your first conversation with them. No girl wants to feel like she is being lied to.
Party Aminals! “Where do you party?” “Where do you drink?” “What clubs do you go to?” Ok this is no way to start off getting to know someone. What goes on in a girls mind when she hears those sentences? What goes on in your mind when that is the first thing a girl asks you? What do you think of her? She parties a lot? She’s a heavy drinker? She’s a slut? Is that the kind of girl you want to date? Or just hook up with? I know the answer to that one. So if you are looking to just hook up with a girl these questions are fine. If you actually want a girl to like you I suggest you keep the party animal in it’s cage for the first conversation.
Really you just need to be nice! Then you’ll be in the clear rather painlessly. I don’t know why that’s so hard to grasp.
♥ Shawnee
