*Note* I'm probably going to make a YT video about this eventually but until then here is a blog post!
"The first to apologize is the bravest.
The first to forgive is the strongest.
The first to forget is the happiest."
So the other day I came upon a YouTuber who's videos I REALLY liked and then the drama bomb dropped... (I'm not going to link the YouTuber or drama filled videos and forums because that's a black hole you do not want to enter. Trust me. Also it has nothing to do with me. They were just drama videos.) Yes, I think a lot drama definitely puts people off from enjoying your channel. Drama might draw people in for a minute while they lavish in your misfortune but it wont keep people interested. Ok I am going off my intended topic... Anyway! What I discovered what that people throw around the term "cyberbully" and "hater" like beads at Mardi Gras. Most often these words don't even apply to the situation. The person just doesn't have a real response so they throw the word "cyberbully" or "hater" at a person.
Cyberbullying is when someone is sending your threatening messages, using their strength or influence to make you do things you don't want to do, exposing people's personal information online, and repeatedly sending you harmful messages or comments. If you are being bullied online you NEED to call your local authorities or reach out to an anti-bullying organization such as the government campaign Stop Bullying.
Cyberbullying is NOT when someone disagrees with you, says they dislike you, or gets offended when you say or do something mean yourself. If you start a war with someone by picking on them and they respond to you in anger that is an argument NOT bullying.Bullying is also not when someone responds negatively to something insensitive or downright stupid that you did or said online. Please don't throw around the "cyberbully" word at every single person who responds negatively to you. That takes away the powerfulness and seriousness of the word and discredits people who are actually receiving death threats and threats against their wellbeing.
Now for "haters..." So there is this whole "You're just a hater" thing going on around the internet. I guarantee most of the people you call "haters" don't hate you at all. They are either a troll and it doesn't have anything to do with you, they just want some attention, or they didn't agree with your post. If someone simply doesn't like you they don't hate you. They may say something insensitive to you but that's to be expected. Why? Because we are sitting here behind a computer all alone making comments on things. It's like when you're driving and someone doesn't know how to merge and you say "You're the biggest jerk-face on the planet!" When you say that you know you're alone and you don't think about the other person's feelings. That is the last thing on your mind right? Are you annoyed? Yes. Do you hate the person? Probably not. So are you a hater? No. It's the same exact way when someone sees something they don't like online. They are alone and venting and they probably didn't think twice about the feelings of the person who posted it. So remember that when you get a not so nice response on a post.
Also having "haters" does not make you famous! STOP! Sure famous people have people that don't like them but being known for being hated is not cool.
So now that I've vented about delusional people who think they are bullied or hated... Let's talk about what to do when you are approached by a troll or someone who doesn't say the nicest thing in a comment.
The first thing you need to do is step outside of yourself and ask yourself some questions...
Is this person providing criticism that you could use to your advantage? If so then you should listen to them.
Is the person personally hurt or offended by what I said? Then you should apologize.
Does this person just dislike me or my art? Then ignore them.
Is this person a troll? Then ignore them or don't take them seriously and make a joke our of their comment. I personally like to just respond to them with quotes from The Dude.
All in all try to not to take all these people on the internet all that seriously. When you put yourself in the public eye and openly share your opinions there will be people who don't like you, don't agree with you, and people who are just drunk at home and bored and trolling. Don't worry about those people and focus on all the cool people that exist online!